I am sorry it has taken me so long to write. I have been dealing with a normal life. School projects have been very demanding, business trips get in the way, and I have been spending time with my family. Over these few weeks I have been thinking about this blog. I do hope you all find the humor in the posts, but then I hope you can see my angle on some of the things I talk about and think about it in your own personal way. After the earth quake in Japan I had to think a lot about my relationships and how import they are to me. I am a person who finds a basic relationship a very strong bond. A basic relationship is not small to me, any person I know is always a close friend to me. Even if we have said 2 words to each other, I still respect that person and cherish the connection we have.
For a few month I have had to look at my family relationships, we have been growing apart for the dumbest reasons. “So-and-so is rude to my kids…” or “I don’t like so-and-so because they are bull-headed…” and I think to myself, how did we get this way? How did my family grow so far apart? I think of how when I was living in California I would have given my life for so many people that I met because I cherished the relationship I had with them. I guess I learned how to be a little selfless while I lived there. I am not saying I am not selfish, because I am extremely selfish, but when it comes to relationships, I try very hard to make sure the other person is more comfortable than I am.
Sacrifice is another thing that our world has a hard time with. After the earth quake in Japan, I heard a guy at work say that if he had the money he would go over to Japan and do humanitarian service to try and help the people there. That seems like a HUGE sacrifice to me because he would have had to give up his job, life, and just about everything to go and help people he had never met before. There are many people who have donated money to help with the clean up the aftermath, and for some people that is a large sacrifice. But in my eyes (this is just Dr. K’s opinion) giving of your time for another person is the most selfless act of service anyone in this world can give. Money is a sacrifice, but in a month you will not even think about the money you donated because you will earn more. But when you donate your time you are sacrificing your time for someone else. And you can see the work actually getting done. You can see how the donation of your time has affected this person’s life. If you want to look at this in a selfish way, you will probably gain more from the experience than the person you’re helping.
Now, let’s tie the two concepts together. Why are we fighting with the people we love because a small annoyance, or because you have been “offended” by something they have said. What I want people to know is that we all have the ability to choose for ourselves. And each time you’re offended, it is your choice to take offence. I have a friend who is very sarcastic in all of his comments. Sometimes he can come off rude, but I remember the council I received to not take offence to anything. So, in your own personal relationships, I want you to sacrifice your feelings to keep the cherished friend or family member close to you. Because you will gain more from doing that than you can even imagine. Do not let little things get in the way of your relationships. When you die, all you will have with you is your memories and the relationships you made here. I love every person in my life. I do not live in California anymore, but I do want them all to know that their relationship with me is something I reflect on each and every day. I love all the wonderful friends I made while living there, I love them more than they think I do. Now that I have preached to you all about some of the issues I see in the world today, I want some input. Do you agree with what I have said? Would you add to it?
Dr. K
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